I am entering week 1 of my new life as a stay at home wife (SAHW). Some women call themselves SAHM or WAHM, because they are Moms already (M in the acronym stands for mom). I wish I could call myself a SAHM or a WAHM too, soon. So what happened, you might want to ask.. I left a well-paying, nine-to-six job in one of America's trusted banks located at the Bonifacio Global City just last Thursday, a day after I turned 30. The reason? I realized that I value family over work and I could not compromise having to work even half day on my birthday. I had a disagreement with my boss. Maybe we just had different principles. I don't want to force myself to go to work on my 30th birthday - I felt that if I do, I would one day look back full of resentment, simply because I chose to be a good employee rather than a good daughter, sister and wife. I was also scared that since my request for leave to celebrate my 30th birthday was disapproved, what then, would be approved? It should have been my boss' present to me - as there was nothing urgent for me to attend to at work on that day, but he chose not to. So I chose to go ahead with my birthday as planned. I even received a call from my boss the night before my birthday which somehow appears to be a threat of sanctioning me for insubordination if I don't report for work on my birthday. I told him I was sorry, but I really couldn't make it and I have prepared myself for the worst on my return to work. I did.
The day after my birthday, I finished what I had to do and handed my boss my resignation letter. I was prepared for it because I won't be happy working with him anymore, because even if the threat of insubordination was not there, the statements that he made the day before my birthday were really something that I wasn't expecting to come from him. My boss and I had a good working relationship which dates back on my CVG days - he was the one who invited me to join the bank after I left CVG. But then after what happened, I just know that we could never go back to where we used to be.
I'm not mad at him, I understand that he just had to stand by his principles as much as I had to stand by mine. I felt sad for leaving my new team behind, though. I've learned to get to know them on a deeper level. We have plans laid out for their career development - one of my passions
is to develop talents in an organization. But it all had to end so quickly. I wasn't able to say goodbye to them. I just sent them a text message last Friday, which happens to be my first day as in the world of the unemployed. Two out of my five staff replied, the rest did not.
Oh before I forget, I also realized that one of my "friends" in facebook who also happened to work in the same bank, and who used to work in CVG as well, has been reporting my facebook status to my boss and who knows, maybe to those countless others who are not in the loop. My boss told me on our last conversation that I have to be careful with what I write on facebook as it might be grounds for some legal action by the bank. What the? I never mentioned the company's name in any of my posts and I believe it's my right as the owner of the facebook account to write whatever status I feel like writing as long as I don't post libelous comments or anything obscene.
Anyhow, I'm fine. A lot better. Maybe this hiatus from work would take me where I really want to be - a successful entrepreneur and homemaker. And of course, since I am now work-stress-free, I can focus on my TTC goal - get pregnant in a month or two! :-)
It was all worth it, I can say. My birthday celebration was fun and very meaningful. I'm happy and so excited to be a SAHW at 30. :-)
The day after my birthday, I finished what I had to do and handed my boss my resignation letter. I was prepared for it because I won't be happy working with him anymore, because even if the threat of insubordination was not there, the statements that he made the day before my birthday were really something that I wasn't expecting to come from him. My boss and I had a good working relationship which dates back on my CVG days - he was the one who invited me to join the bank after I left CVG. But then after what happened, I just know that we could never go back to where we used to be.
I'm not mad at him, I understand that he just had to stand by his principles as much as I had to stand by mine. I felt sad for leaving my new team behind, though. I've learned to get to know them on a deeper level. We have plans laid out for their career development - one of my passions
is to develop talents in an organization. But it all had to end so quickly. I wasn't able to say goodbye to them. I just sent them a text message last Friday, which happens to be my first day as in the world of the unemployed. Two out of my five staff replied, the rest did not.
Oh before I forget, I also realized that one of my "friends" in facebook who also happened to work in the same bank, and who used to work in CVG as well, has been reporting my facebook status to my boss and who knows, maybe to those countless others who are not in the loop. My boss told me on our last conversation that I have to be careful with what I write on facebook as it might be grounds for some legal action by the bank. What the? I never mentioned the company's name in any of my posts and I believe it's my right as the owner of the facebook account to write whatever status I feel like writing as long as I don't post libelous comments or anything obscene.
Anyhow, I'm fine. A lot better. Maybe this hiatus from work would take me where I really want to be - a successful entrepreneur and homemaker. And of course, since I am now work-stress-free, I can focus on my TTC goal - get pregnant in a month or two! :-)
It was all worth it, I can say. My birthday celebration was fun and very meaningful. I'm happy and so excited to be a SAHW at 30. :-)
